Our Children Are Our Best Teachers – Part 2

There were many responses to an article previously published on The Secret Bank Blog entitled: “Our Children Are Our Best Teacher’s.” Through the questions and comments received we felt our message was not fully understood. As a result we decided to give it another shot.

For the purpose of staying true to our teachings let me say that perhaps it was me that didn’t fully get what I was teaching in that article. I know that as I teach is as I learn and my world validates for me how clear I am with what I teach, as well as how unclear I may be in relation to my intent. If questions come up through my world/reflection, then ultimately it is me questioning me and my teachings. For this reason, we offer Part 2 – Our Children are Our Best Teachers.

In the first article we said,

“Our children are our best teacher’s and, since all in our world are products of our very own mind, all in our world are our children. Those that appear in our world through out our day are showing us what lies within us. As you are, is as your children/world is. All in our world is a mirror for us.”

To illustrate my point more clearly I would like to use the body – my body, your body…it matters not, as a method to illustrate that our children are our best teacher’s. In my understanding, the first descendent of the mind is my body. As I am, is as my body reflects.

A mind that is in fear inevitably will reflect a body with some sort of imbalance – whether it is overweight, sick or ailing slightly… imbalance will appear somewhere as the direct descendant of the mind that has dis-ease as it’s foundation. Fear, being the culprit, which manifests as some sort of malady in the body they will appear as offspring that are not congruent with love, peace and joy. For the purpose of this article we will call these maladies ‘wayward children’.

The sins of the father, that are often addressed in spiritual circles, could be better understood if we could grasp the concept that the entire world we see is actually the affect of the sins or more correctly, errors of the mother or female principle. In the perfect union of love, comes the out-manifestation or child of perfection. It is cause extending itself it’s love , and reflecting only the lovely.

The Father gives the Mother the right to decide, to become what she aspires to become. Anything she wants, He gives. She decides either from a place of love or of fear. Love gives birth to Itself, as does fear.

Imbalance in the body comes from fear. The mother’s fear thoughts are her children. Fear gives birth to fear. The mother is in some sense of dis-ease and as she is, is as her body becomes. Fear becomes painful and her children appear wayward. The body becomes as the mother unbalanced. The mother’s pain becomes a witness to the fear that was once love, for the pure state of the Father and the Mother is Love.

Pain, what we will call the wayward child, feels separate from its mother and its father. It has gone astray. In pain, the child or body seeks to find what it feels it has lost. It seeks and seeks but does not find it’s mother’s love. Eventually the pain that comes from fear of being separate from its True Source becomes desperate and appears more unlike itself. Lost, it now appears as dis-ease and apparently not related to the mother’s love at all. The Wayward child or body of the mother becomes so desperate that it will do almost anything to reunite with the mother and the father’s love.

Pain, being it’s only hope for acknowledgement, becomes it’s expression. The body or child of the mother will remain unhealed until the pain is unbearable and awakens the mother’s love. When that occurs she becomes conscious and sees the child for who he is – her son. She then takes steps towards reuniting with the child in peace and unconditional love making right what was wronged in her very own mind. She sees him as a thought she gave birth to, frightened and lost and in need of her attention, her encouragement and her love.

What does your body look like?
How does it feel?
Are you accepting it or rejecting it?

The answer to these questions will determine what your future world will look like.

As you feel about it, is as it will become. A child never wants to let her parents down.

Take a good look at your body. Feel the pain it feels and know that you can transform your child by accepting where it is, communicating your willingness to spend more time loving it and ultimately being it’s loving parent.

Our children are our best teacher’s. What is your body – your child teaching you about you?

Our Children Are Our Best Teachers

In a recent email a woman asked,

“I know we all have our struggles with our children. I was wondering what thoughts others have on helping our children. Here’s my situation. I have a 10 year old boy who is extremely shy. I am wondering how I can use the Law of Attraction to help him open up and feel more confident in himself. Also, I have an 8 year-old daughter. She is an angry little girl. I could really use some help trying to bring out the best in my children, when talking and ‘showing’ isn’t working.”

Our children are our best teacher’s and since all in our world are products of our very own mind, then all in our world are our children. Those that appear in our world most of the day are showing us what is within us. As you are, IS as your children are. All are a mirror for us.

My questions for this mother would be:

1- How do you feel about your boy being shy?
2- How do you feel about your girl being angry?

These answers will show her why her children are acting the way they are. The messengers that appear in our world – our children – represent for us something about us. So what messages could we suppose this son and daughter are bringing to their mom?

Our children are our best teachers. We cannot change another nor can we expect our children to change us. We need to change our minds by changing our thoughts and the feelings that empower them if we expect to see change in our children – our world.

As you change so does your world. Your world is a shadow, a reflection of what you feel and what you think. Your attitude will determine the conditions that appear to be outside of you.

In A Course in Miracles is says, “all in our world is of us.”

Quantum theory says, what we put our attention on we identify and as we identify, is as we see. The more we put our attention on an idea, the more the idea forms into a thing. And the more attention, the more concrete it becomes.

Deepak Chopra says, “we cannot have a relationship with anything we don’t pay attention to.”

In Ho’ponopono, a concept that comes from the Huna Tradition, Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, a therapist, healed an entire ward of criminally insane patients by simply reviewing charts and forgiving himself for being in error.

He repeated

“Forgive me, I’m sorry, I Love you, Thank You” as he reviewed these charts. He never saw the patients, yet they healed and were released. The hospital was closed short time later.

The problem and the solution resides in the mind of the perceiver.

What do we do to teach our children the Law of Attraction?
We simply ‘be the change that we wish to see in them’.

Detachment and Forgiveness

Forgiveness is always for us, always to bring about a state of peace in our own mind. It is the single greatest tool for bringing JOY into our life. Most people find forgiveness very difficult because they believe its about forgiving others. The world validates what we give our most passionate thoughts or attention to. And the world shows up the way we think it will. Here is how it shows us what we are thinking:

We live in a Giant House of Mirrors. Everywhere we turn, around every corner there is a mirror. Mirrors appear to us as people, places, things and circumstances these mirrors

act for us,
speak for us,
speak to us,
and show us…
the things or programs we are thinking into our life to block the greatness within us, and the unbroken ecstasy that flows from it.

To forgive means to give-before before what? Before we receive. Its the cycle of re-planting the seed programs we want to grow in our life. For–giving is a process of correcting program errors in our subconscious mind which block the natural flow of harmony from the Unified Field. When we meet a mirror and the mirror gives us the gift of showing us one of our blocks, we re-program the error block by forgiving or forgetting or erasing it by re-planting a new program into our subconscious mind.

This magnetically attracts new mirror images we want to show up in our life, the seed programs that we want to grow in our life. Forgiving or forgetting is the fastest process to re-program the subconscious mind. The mirrors help us to recognize our error programs and forgiveness helps us to let them go. Forgiveness helps us allow error programs, programs that magnetize people, places, things and circumstances we do not want, to fade away by forgetting them.

This process makes it easier to begin re-programming what we do want -Wealth, Health and Happiness.

What already IS – the Greatness within us – is already there. It needs no programming, It only needs revealing. When we forget or for-give or re-program, we are removing the blocks to our inherent greatness in and through which anything is possible. The only restrictions are the blocks or programs, which our mirrors show us we are still magnetizing into our life.

When we learn to for-give, guilt leaves us because the error programs that attract it into our life have been erased and replaced. What remains is a sense of Worthiness. Worthiness allows the natural flow of harmony from The Unified Field -The Subconscious Mind – to enter our minds and from there into our bodies and life circumstances returning what we are, what we have, what we do and what we experience in our circumstances to a state of Wholeness.

When we are experiencing a constant state of unattached creating with our power to make up our world, we experience a constant state of Wealth, Health and Happiness -Joy. Another word for this constant state of Being is LOVE.

Detachment and Receiving

We touched on receiving in our previous post on Gratitude where we discussed how important this habit is to the attitude of Worthiness.

Happiness, in its truest sense, means JOY.

“Joy is a perpetual state of mind which is unaffected by any condition or circumstance.”

Happiness is like a roller coaster. One moment you are happy – even ecstatic, then you are sad – even depressed. Most people believe these are normal states of living. High follows low, hot follows cold, up follows down, night follows day, happy follows sad. But joy is a flat line, a state of peacefulness that is unattached to outcomes.

You can use The Law of Attraction to experience Wealth, Health and Happiness, but the un-paralled ecstasy of Joy is only possible if you can detach from results – which are in the future and focus on the process that is happening in this moment, in the NOW.

All pain – dis-ease – is caused by BLOCKING the natural flow of Wholeness from The Unified Field – The Subconscious Mind.

When we are attached to outcomes we are identified with
who we think we are,
what we have,
what we do and
what occurs in our circumstances.

We are none of these things!!! We are the the THINKERS that made them up. We are NOT the

cars we drive,
the houses we live in,
the money we possess,
the titles in front or after our names,
the education we have attained,
the relationships we have or
the experiences we have had.
And, we are NOT the bodies we wear.

We make up all these things with our thoughts – by default as most people create, or by INTENTION through our conscious design.

When we really understand this, it is possible to detach our self from ALL RESULTS of our creative thinking and enjoy the Creative Process in each Moment

When we detach our self from ALL identification we experience an incredible thing – Freedom from GUILT. WHY? Freedom from Guilt is the gateway to a sense of Worthiness through which Harmony flows from The Unified Field – The Subconscious Mind. Detaching is a process of FORGETTING or LETTING GO of everything we have made up with our thoughts. This is also know as FORGIVENESS.

Joy and Detachment

Creating our reality suggests that we are focused on those creations that will bring us happiness, and this is as it should be. However, happiness is a roller coaster since in this world of duality everything has its opposite. Nevertheless, there is a middle ground which we call Joy. Imagine a pin suspended between the opposite poles of a magnet – you probably did an experiment like this in school. That’s where joy can be found.

Joy is a state of supreme happiness that can be experienced even in the presence of pain and suffering. We’ll explore that more in another post, but for now lets look at HOW this perfect state of happiness is arrived at.

The state of joy is reached very simply by “detaching” ourself from the results of whatever it is we are creating or have created. This is not the same as indifference because indifference is a close relative of boredom – definitely not a state of joy.

When we identify with anything we are attached to it – we have a vested interest in it and we will swing between the poles of happiness and sadness, pleasure and pain as a result. This dance is fine for a while, even exciting but eventually, everyone reaches a state of mind where “the price of the low is too high for the high.”

Another very important factor related to detachment is the influence it has on the manifestation process of creating our reality. When we have an intention and put it out into the Universal Subjective Mind – The Unified Field – The Field of Infinte Possibilities, if we are deeply attached to or in need of that intention coming into our life, we add an element of fear to it. Its like planting a seed then going out into the garden every morning and digging it up to see how its coming along. Not a good gardening plan!

But how to be enthused or passionate about an intention, yet not being attached to it? Seem like a paradox – not really? The secret lies in the motive behind the intention. If your motive is in some way connected to the service of others it is in harmony with the most basic intention of the universe -“giving.” Why giving? Because there is only One in the universe and Oneness knows It can give only to Itself!

Thought and The Unified Field

Ernest Holmes, the founder of Science of Mind described what theology calls “The Trinity” Spirit – Universal Subjectivity – Particularization. Universal Subjectivity is referred to in the Bible as that aspect of God which is …”no respecter of persons…” Quantum Physics or Quantum Mechanics calls it The Unified Field.Holmes explained that this aspect of the universe has ‘no choice’ but to return to us everything we put into it. This is why it is no respecter of persons. It matters not whether we ask it for sickness or health, poverty or wealth or misery or joy. It must and will manifest persons, places, things and circumstances that are exact duplicates of what ‘thoughts’ we drop into it, into this Unified Field.

It may be protested,

“But I never asked for sickness!”

Perhaps you did not in so many words, but when we accept a thought such as, “Better watch out, its flu season…if your not careful you’ll catch your death of cold.”

This is a thought, which when accepted with casual belief as if its the gospel truth, places an order with the Unified Field which immediately goes to work bringing it into your experience. Unless you change your mind, perhaps by telling it that you will stay healthy if you get a flu shot and then go ahead and get the shot, you will in fact get the flu for certain. But its not the flu shot that kept you healthy…its your belief in it that kept you healthy.

The Unified Field does what it is told to do. In our microcosmic experience of this globally accepted fact, it is the subconscious mind that corresponds to the Universal Subjectivity of the universe. Whatever we think ‘into’ our subconscious mind – our individual Unified Field, and believe is possible, manifests in our life…in some way.

This means that everything is possible. It also means, we must be mindful of what thoughts we are consistently thinking about and accepting as true, because that is what our world will reflect back to us.

Watch Your World

Watching your world is a monitor for what you are thinking, and especially what you have been thinking – some thinking from moments ago and some from long ago. The manifested world you experience has all been brought to you care of your consistent thinking, particularly the thoughts infused with the greatest emotion.This concept is very difficult to grasp or even accept by most people who are just learning about the Law of Attraction for the first time. “How,” they may argue, “can a war or the accident I saw on television this evening have anything to do with my thinking? I didn’t create it!”… they will exclaim. Nevertheless, unless they ceased giving emotional thoughts to these kinds of subjects, these kinds of manifestations must show up in their world.

We resonate at the frequency of our thinking and the world reflects that resonance just like the music we hear always resonates with any particular melody we are playing. In this way you could say the world is a mirror which works according to an unchanging Law.

Here’s an example most people can relate to: Say you are looking for a new car and finally decide on one that fits your specific needs. You will likely have seen this type of car before but it wasn’t ‘in your face’ everywhere you went. But now, as you drive off the dealership lot, your mind is focused and likely excited about this particular automobile. That vibration goes out into the universe and soon – maybe within seconds – you begin seeing that exact same car – maybe even the same color, everywhere you go. This lasts as long as the ‘newness’ of your new car is running through your mind. Sound familiar?

This does not mean that some significant event such as a major earthquake will escape the attention of people who think at a high positive frequency. It simply means that those people will perceive the event differently than people who continually expect and think about disasters as normal. In fact the positive thinking thinkers will immediately ‘feel’ the experience of those living in the area of the event and begin sending positive thoughts to those people and that area.

Simply put, this kind of thinking works on the constructive, uplifting, inspiring side of manifestation which ‘feels good’ while those with a negative or cynical outlook works on the destructive side of manifestation, which does not ‘feel’ good.

Watching our world shows us what we have been thinking about and helps us to eliminate the thoughts which do not lead to experiences that ‘feel’ good.

Triggering The God “I Am”

Joseph Murphy in his book “Think Yourself Rich” shares a prayer he titled, The prayer that changed my life.We would like to share this prayer with you here. You might want to find a comfortable place to sit and meditate as you read these words given to us from Dr. Murphy – a Master teacher of The Law of Attraction.

Try to allow yourself to feel and envision the essence of what this prayer is saying to you. It is our intention as you read you will actually feel The God “I Am” become you.

As you and we become One with Him…Abundance, Love, Health and Peace will be apparent to you…to us.

Go inside now to the place where all you ever need, or want is available to you ….

“I know your body is the temple where God dwells.”

“I honor and exalt the Divine presence within me…Within all….”

“Divine love fills our soul, and His river of peace flows through our mind and heart now and at all times. We eat food with joy, knowing that it is transmuted into beauty, harmony, wholeness, and perfection. We know God hath need of us where we are, and we are Divinely expressed.”

“We are Loved, We are needed, We are wanted and appreciated by our Heavenly father and others. We radiate love, peace, and goodwill to everyone at all times. Our food and drink are God’s ideas that unfold within us, making us strong, wholesome, and full of Divine Energy.”

“We are Love, We are peace, we are The Fulfillment our His Will through us…Our Life is a Divine Expression of God’s Abundance…”

“I Am – You are One Divine Expression of The Infinite Field of Plenty. It is so…Thank You God! It is so.”

We recommend that you read this prayer every night before retiring. The ‘essence’ of these words will penetrate your subconscious mind and lift you to a higher level of consciousness in sleep state. This attracts similar vibrations which nourish the mind, spirit and body preparing you for a day of joy to follow.

We are told to “…seek first the Kingdom of Heaven and all else will be added unto us…” This is the way to do this by keeping our thoughts lofty toward that which cannot be threatened which IS the Kingdom of Heaven. In this way the Kingdom of Heaven becomes our experience…our very consciousness, and we remember it as our true state of Being.

Practical Spirituality

In the book by John Randolph Price, “Practical Spirituality” the author says:”Your God-Self thinks only thoughts of abundance and never lack or limitation. These thoughts are in form of pure space within the Mind of your Higher Self. This thought energy constitutes a momentous force, a power, a mighty thrust which presses out and radiates through your consciousness. This thought energy – the Mind Power – is pregnant with the thinkingness of unlimited supply, boundless prosperity, overflowing abundance.”

“As this copious substance moves through your consciousness, it is either distributed “as is” – or altered according to the vibration of your energy field. It lets itself be impressed with the shape of your consciousness, and then goes forth into the physical world to become, or appear as, forms and experiences relating to your concept of abundance.”

This passage is really a jewel. As we become conscious and begin to take heed of our thoughts and the feelings we radiate, we then see how out thoughts become an actual hindrance to prosperous manifestation because The Higher Mind knows far better than any thought we can think in place of it.

Practical Spirituality, for us is living in ‘God Space’ knowing that as we think we are actualizing the God ‘I Am’ in all that we say and do. It is not only spiritual to allow God to be God in us but it is also logical. What could be more awesome in our experience than to bring forth the highest possibility in every moment?

As we become more awakened to the Power within we will see more clearly how practical Spirituality actually is.

A Creators Responsibility

There is a moment in the awakening process when we get an enormous “AHA”. Its a wake up call that makes us aware that as co-creators of our reality we have a huge responsibility. Until that moment there is a belief which lingers in the recesses of our mind that their are “victims” in the world. For some this belief is rock solid and any attempt to shake this belief is met with indignation and even outright rage.But for most people who have an understanding about The Law of Attraction, there is a semi-belief which allows for “exceptions” in particularly “unhappy” circumstances which seem totally beyond our scope of creativity. The “AHA” puts this to rest once and for all. The awareness of our awesome power to create brings with it the understanding that we are creating every moment of our day and, as we have said before, mostly by default.”Thoughts are living things that expand and manifest after their kind,” is much more than just a wise saying. It is a Law of the universe which is impeccable and unswerving and has no exceptions. What we experience in our world is an exact duplicate of what we have been thinking and cannot show up unless it has found a home in our mind.

This means we have a sacred responsibility to clearly define the parameters of the world we want to experience and then give our undivided focus to that new world. Wherever there was a disturbance to our peace of mind and happiness, we need to redesign the outcome to fit the joyful experiences we are seeking.

No matter what thoughts may have caused the ripples or tidal waves in our life experiences, there will be change as a result of our changed focus. These changes will occur in both small and large circumstances in the world we live in and experience. More importantly they will be revealed in the way we perceive the things that seem “not” to have changed. In these situations the thought of being a victim will begin to disappear.

This understanding, that there are no victims, can be disturbing since the idea of accusing others must also leave our mind. It shows us that we need look in only one place, within our own mind for the creator of our own reality.